What is your score?

Sex coaching falls under the umbrella of sexology, the scientific study of sex, namely the interests, functions, and behaviours of humans in regard to sex and sexual expression.

Like so many other areas subject to study, i.e. 'ologies', the outcome of deep immersion in a specific field generates different outcomes and directions that go from research to applied knowledge to commercial opportunities.

We can see example of this across multiple areas, say, study the muscle structure of humans and there is an explosion of vitamins to increase muscle strength, fabrics intended to keep muscles warm, drugs to enhance, drugs to relieve injury and pain, self-help books to use muscles well and become stronger.

And yet when it comes to sexology what is clear is how limited in breath, how relatively new this field is and within it, sex coaching, in particular. And this is my first take away when I picked up my first study book.

I naively thought that with all the science, the study, the research, all that talk about sex in films, plastered on billboards, thrown in our face on media platforms, sex-coaching would already be a well-established field and yet it has developed quite recently.

Even more surprisingly, ok... read gullible, I believed what I was reading, what I was told, what I was seeing to be true, especially since not one person I knew dared to question any of it.

Everybody drinks from the same fountain of tested knowledge, smacking their lips in overt satisfaction when others are watching, so why this weird feeling that something was not quite right?....Where was the problem?

Glossy magazines, self help books, and the internet shower us with surveys and polls about our sex life, and we, dutifully, yet surreptiously lest our fellow commuter should glance in our direction and tut tut in in disapproval, answer all the questions about positions, frequency, lube, lingerie, who wants to 'do it' more.

Score 0 to 3 you have a problem and you should see a doctor, 4 to 7 average lover, your partner should do more/listen more/desire you more/understand you more/read your mind more..... , 8 to 10 porn star, perfect lover, caring, sexy, ready when you are ready and understanding when you are not in the mood.

Finally now you know, and you read the questions carefully again, tell yourself you misunderstood a term and change one answer that surprisingly pushes your final score a bit higher. Ah now it's right, feeling better.

If it is, I am very happy you got this sex stuff sorted. Congratulations!

So?....what is your score?